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Do you think teenagers should begin dating the opposite sex, especially when they have zero financial income and are still schooling? I think we shouldn't begin this thing within the so-called 'adolescent' period. We still have to depend on our parents to get what we want. Thus, spending their money for dating purposes is definitely foolish. There's certainly no meaning for a date of using their money for dating. Furthermore, relationships built during this period won't last long. The best thing to do is to wait till we have a stable financial support, or at least completed our studies. What do you think?
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I don't think so. Young couples can still have "free dates". They don't have to spend money at all. For example, window shopping or just a city strolling can give them a good and unforgettable day!
There's definitely no such thing as 'free dates' in this modern era anymore. Money is needed for anything. I don't believe you won't spend even a penny during a date. You have to eat when your stomach starts to growl after a long stroll, and you will have to invite your date to a nearby McDonald's for a meal. That's still spending!
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I think it's Ok to date at this age. But financial income is really a big problem for those teenage couples. You have to spend some money for date. Do you wish to treat your girlfriend with sky juice when dating.Maybe girls don't have this much problems. Who knows? Maybe teenage couples should think of a date without spending any money. Do this kind of date really appear?
As I've said --- NO! Maybe there IS if you only go dating for a few seconds or minutes, because you wouldn't even get a chance to spend in just a couple of seconds or minutes!
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There's certainly no problem if you only date for a couple of times. Let's say you have to spend approximately 10 dollars upon each date. You've spent 500 dollars if you've dated 50 times! That's a huge sum of money, and you're spending it without you knowing it! What's worse is if nothing's going right and you two ended breaking up eventually. By then, you've spent the money and get nothing in the end!
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quote: Originally posted by: Stupid Antique "Go for short strolls after lunch or dinner, or a walk in the park. Don't have to spend money."
I agree. I am not rich but I don't think dating will pose huge problems! And, what's wrong to spend few money but can get along with your lover? You still have to eat if you are not dating, right? So, what's wrong to eat outside? It's just the difference of the spot and person you spend your eating time with.
quote: Originally posted by: Jay "And, what's wrong to spend few money but can get along with your lover? You still have to eat if you are not dating, right? So, what's wrong to eat outside?"
The major difference is you need to double pay. What's the use of spending all those money (especially when those are your parent's money!) when you are still uncertain whether your relationship with your beloved will last for eternity or not? It's as if burning your own money when all these sweet momories only last for a short while. Also, there's nothing wrong to eat outside, just you need to pay more whenever you're dating compared to when you're eating alone. Like I had said in the earlier post, you have to do it a lot of times. When you're supposed to pay 500 dollars for 50 meals when eating alone, you need to pay 1000 dollars upon 50 dates, plus the expenses on gifts and other stuffs, just to make your beloved happy!
-- Edited by europology at 18:16, 2005-02-26
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i think dating is a little silly becasue there is no real commitment - but you "feel" in love. I guess there is no better way to find your match - and anything is better than arranged marriage.
quote: Originally posted by: europology " When you're supposed to pay 500 dollars for 50 meals when eating alone, you need to pay 1000 dollars upon 50 dates, plus the expenses on gifts and other stuffs, just to make your beloved happy! "
That's not true. I don't think you need so much money for a snack or two, and it's not a must to buy gifts for your beloved to make her happy, that wouldn't be true love. Hehe...if your beloved really loves you, she would understand that you have no financial income yet and thus wouldn't expect you to be buying gifts for her, even a short stroll with you would make her really happy. Plus, I think 50 dates would be too much to decide whether she is the right one, 50 dates is a lot, I'm sure by that time you would be able to determine whether she is the one. If she is, then the little bit of money spent is worth it.
Why is it not true? We young people love having meals at fastfood outlets, and a meal there will cost you that price. What if your beloved has a big appetite? Then you need to pay more! Oh yes, ladies won't have to worry about this problem because it's always the men who are to pay the bills.
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Meals cost money? Everything costs money in this materialistic world!!! Whether you are eating "house meals" or fast food, you also have to spend money. I don't think only men should pay for that, they can consult with their love ones, say they can pay in turn or each pays for self. Then, all problems are settled, right? Nobody will pay double.
Well, men will always have to pay. It's the rule. Men must treat ladies nice and gentle. That's where the term gentleman (gentlemen) comes from. You wouldn't suppose to let the lady pay for you when you're having an opulent meal with her in a 5-star restaurant, would you? That's so shameful if you do that. Ladies first! Ladies first! In most restaurants, the sommeliers will always serve wine and dishes for the ladies first, before any man. Why? This is the rule lol! Ladies need to be seated first, and with the help of her man, of course!
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And, I wouldn't have to say all these if I have a stable job and income. I will definitely bring my date out for meals and saunters whenever she likes. But the problem is I am still a student and have zero financial income. All my bank savings are for my educational needs and future plans. I wouldn't want to ask money from my parents just to spend a romantic night with my date. That's so absurd. I'll feel extremely ashamed of myself if I still ask money from them without realizing how hard they work and strive just to earn a living. I'll become a useless child in their eyes, a child with no tomorrow. I wouldn't want to be like that. For me right now, education first, and I'll hold firmly to this principle of mine.
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Forget about dates and financial incomes. Do you think it's advisable to have a boyfriend or girlfriend at such a young age? Will it affect a person's studies?
Of course! Many students have done badly in their studies after they've started dating. That's not good, a negative phenomenon indeed. They couldn't pay attention in class, and always want to go out with each other while in school. They have no mood to study. They are thinking about each other all the time. So, what for? If you ruin your future in this way, don't you think it's such a big waste?
-- Edited by europology at 01:35, 2005-03-26
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Wow! You sound as though you've had a lot of experience in this, since you know all the symptoms so well...... Must have been dating someone secretly, eh?
Actually, I think it depends. Who knows? Having a boyfriend or girlfriend may also be a form of encouragement for a person to study harder in order to ensure a bright future with his or her beloved. At least life has a meaning now, and they have a goal to work towards. I'm sure nobody wants to be looked down by his or her beloved, if they happen to do badly in their studies. They can encourage each other to work hard for their future together. That's something good, isn't it?
quote: Originally posted by: Stupid Antique "Wow! You sound as though you've had a lot of experience in this, since you know all the symptoms so well...... Must have been dating someone secretly, eh? "
First of all, nope! I've never been dating with anyone before. How can I go dating when I'm so opposed to dates in teenage years? That's so self-contradictory!
-- Edited by europology at 01:40, 2005-03-26
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quote: Originally posted by: Stupid Antique "Actually, I think it depends. Who knows? Having a boyfriend or girlfriend may also be a form of encouragement for a person to study harder in order to ensure a bright future with his or her beloved. At least life has a meaning now, and they have a goal to work towards. I'm sure nobody wants to be looked down by his or her beloved, if they happen to do badly in their studies. They can encourage each other to work hard for their future together. That's something good, isn't it? "
I dare say that this situation only occupies a small percentage among all young dates. We tend to assume that those who date at a very young age are not interested in studies and are usually lazy, playful and mischievous. They might play truant just to meet and hang out with each other. Let's face this. Teens are teens. We are not yet matured and we are not considered adults. We're pre-adults. That's why we might do things that are illogical and somewhat childish, such as playing truant to hang out with your partner. That's so absurd. Which one is more important for us right now? Love or education?
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